So, your parent needs help around the home. You’ve talked about bringing in home care services, but your mom is perfectly fine on her own. Your worry about your dad’s lack of a social life. He insists he’s happy and that you should butt out. When talking to your stubborn parent, many experts feel “I” statements work better than “You” statements.
What is an “I” Statement?
When you’re talking to your mom or dad about hiring a caregiver, what do you say? Have you said statements similar to “You don’t seem as able anymore.” Many seniors do become upset when it’s suggested that they’re no longer capable adults. This is where “I” statements may help.
An “I” statement turns the focus on your feelings and thoughts. You became the person with a problem that needs solving. Your parent is likely to be concerned for your own emotional help. If you address a problem as being your problem, you may get more agreement. This approach doesn’t always work, but it works more often than making it seem as though your elderly mom or dad is the problem.
As an example, your mom drove her car into a shop. She mistook the gas pedal for the brake pedal. Instead of going to your mom and saying “You can’t safely drive anymore,” try “I don’t know what I’d do if you got hurt. I worry about you when I’m at work.” You could also try a statement like: “I get so stressed when I’m trying to care for your grandchildren and also come cook your meals on weekends. I wish I could get someone to help me.”
How Should You Approach Home Care Services?
Home care service is tough for a senior. They often see it as a stranger coming into their home and invading their privacy. Don’t rush into the decision. Start by getting your parent to agree to try it just two hours a day for a few weeks. You may find as your parent grows accustomed to having a helper in the home and gets to know the elder care professional, your mom or dad will be accepting of additional days or hours.
Are You Ready to Get Started?
Make sure you involve your mom or dad in the interviews. It’s their home, so they need to give input. Ask other family members or friends if they know of any seniors with a home care services professional. It can help to have your parent talk to a peer who already has a caregiver. Ready to start interviewing caregivers. Call our home care services agency today to get started.
If you or an aging loved one are considering Home Care Services near Paradise PA, contact the caring staff at Extended Family Care of Lancaster. Call today at (717) 205-2174.
A long-time resident of Lancaster County, Mary Lynne enjoys spending time with her husband Terry, and their 3 horses and collies. The countless hours of caring for her client and employee-based “family” at work and at home can truly depict the selfless character of Mary Lynne Heller. Mary Lynne is a Google Verified Author
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