As a parent of special needs children, you might find that some people say things that aren’t very nice. They may do this out of ignorance or because they just don’t take the time to be kind. Whatever the reason is, how you handle the situation can make a world of difference.
Try to Mentally Step Back from the Comments
It isn’t always easy to step away from mean comments, but it can be an important first step. Chances are very good that what this other person is saying doesn’t actually have much of anything to do with you or with your child. Take a deep breath and try to remember that people sometimes say things that they shouldn’t say.
Stay as Calm as Possible
Your first reaction, especially since this is about your child, might be to come out of your corner swinging. But the calmer you are the better because these situations can escalate very quickly. If the other person is simply trying to rile you up, you’re playing right into her hands.
Choose Your Battles Carefully
Sometimes the right response is to educate the person who has said something ignorant or cruel. Other times, the right response might be to simply smile or walk away. It’s important to know when you should gear up for battle and when it’s wiser to stand down. Once you master this skill, it’s far easier to let some of these comments roll off your back.
Let Someone in Charge Know What’s Going On
If the situation is one in which you’re in a group setting and you’ll need to deal with this person again, you might need to let someone in authority know what is going on. This isn’t always possible or the right next step, but when this is something you can do, others may be able to step in and offer the education that this person needs. Hopefully it’s not a situation you’ll have to deal with again afterward.
Establish a Support Network for Yourself
You need a support network for yourself because no matter how well you handle the situation in the moment, you most likely will need to vent afterward. Other family caregivers in a support group or friends or pediatric home health care providers who understand your situation are more likely to be able to offer you support and some perspective on what was said and how you might respond to that person in the future.
Taking care of yourself and your child is what’s important in these moments. Take the time that you need to recover and do what you can to minimize the fallout from these situations.
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Laura has earned her MBA in Health Care Administration from Canisius College, a Bachelor of Science degree from the State University of New York at Buffalo and is currently a CPR/First Aid Instructor for the American Red Cross. Laura has sat on three Professional Advisory Committees throughout the community, has been on the Board of Directors for a non-profit nursing home, currently acts as an Advisory Board Member for the Allegheny County Respite Care Coalition, Gateway Health Plan, and the North Allegheny School District Elementary Advisory Council. She is also an active committee member of the Southwestern PA Partnership on Aging, Twilight Wish Foundation and Marshall Elementary Yearbook Committee.
Raising four active children with her husband Brian, she seems to spend more time on baseball and soccer fields than she does at home which helps her appreciate their family vacation time even more.