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Winning the Bathing Battle with Your Elderly Loved One

Elder Care in Harmarville PA: Bath time can be scary for some elderly loved ones. For others, it's their Waterloo. Here's some information that can help.

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If you’ve ever argued with your elderly loved one about whether or not she needs to have a bath or shower, then you know that it’s an uncomfortable argument. You may likely also feel like you always lose, even if you do get her into the tub. Try these tips to get the battle under control.

Don’t Make it a Battle in the First Place
The very first thing that you can do to win the war of the bathtub is to stop declaring it a war. This is especially important if bathing is your loved one’s last big area of control. Some elderly loved ones literally have no other area that is under their own domain, so they will hold onto it with every fiber of their being. Don’t fight with your loved one over bathing and that stops being a chip in the power game. This can be easier said than done, of course, so don’t give up entirely, just stop arguing about it.

Look for Physical Solutions
Sometimes your loved one may not be able to articulate with you that there is a solid reason for her to avoid bathing. The problem could be related to Alzheimer’s or dementia or your loved one could simply feel unsafe and be unable to express that. Look for ways to improve the bathroom’s safety. This might mean adding hand rails to the tub area or using a shower seat. Work with the situation to resolve anything that is unsafe or uncomfortable for your loved one.

Take Yourself Out of the Equation
It could also be that you’re too close to the situation. Some elderly loved ones avoid bathing if they need help simply because it’s embarrassing. Embarrassment is an incredibly powerful motivator and your loved one may find it preferable to not wash at all rather than have you help with a bath or shower. Try hiring elderly care providers who can help with personal care tasks and see if your loved one’s attitude toward bathing changes.

Let it Go
You may have to eventually just let the issue go. You’ll get her into the tub or shower now and again, but not every time you think she should. And that may be as good as it gets. Remember, you’re trying to stop seeing bathing as a battle, so letting go is the last best option. Do try talking with your loved one’s doctor to see if there are any medical reasons to worry about.

When bathing is a battle, then neither you nor your elderly loved one are going to enjoy the experience.

If you or an aging loved one are considering elder care services in Harmarville, PA, please call and talk to the caring staff at Extended Family Care of Pittsburgh at (412) 693-6009. We will answer all of your questions.

Stephen Sternbach

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